Holding My Hand

Dear Pilgrim,

Where are you at this point in your journey, or let me ask, what is your most recent experience? Do you find this experience, one of learning or an experience that places you at a “check point” to reflect on the situation that just occurred?

I am learning to understand that I cannot determine, how far I've reached, because until I reach a stage, I can not assume to know that reaching that point is an important juncture in my journey. For example, I do ask myself, “What did I learn from that situation,” but cannot assume that because I have taken many steps (whether backward of forward) means I am making progress. To do so, in my own perception would mean to idolize my accomplishment. I try to look at my journey as a package – review situations, and not the journey. After all, I am still growing; I am not even going to pretend to be a “Czar” or “Tsar” in this area. A Czar in this area will not be on the journey, but will serve as head of Czardom; a Czar in this area will be at the top of the hill, mostly criticizing, or overly praising you, rather than guiding you. Do not be your own Czar; put aside the Czar crown, if you are wearing one and recluse yourself from Czardom.

I learn from a lot of sources, including situations, which sometimes can be tricky; I learn from reading books, I learn from watching movies, from listening to the experiences of others, and from watching situations as they unfold. Guess what? Sometimes I do neglect to implement some of the things learned when I am faced with similar, or the same situations. That means; I fall short all the time. Even right now, I am falling short, in my thoughts, and actions. It is 7am, and I am sitting at this computer writing you, but I have been preoccupied by a situation. Earlier, I had promised to pray about this situation, but have not offered this situation to God, but rather spent the time venting, getting upset, and trying to find means to solve the problem using my own strength. Yes, that is the truth, my dear comrade!

In sum, I fall, and when I recognize that I have fallen, I thank God for the eyes to see that I have fallen. Then, I murmur thanks to God for the strength to stand, and thank him for the knowledge and wisdom to murmur the thanks to him. In addition, I ask him to guide me as I begin the next step. I cannot do it on my own, is the placard I am learning to carry. So I ask him, I tell him, I petition him to do it for me and my son, Michael. Ah, who else can I call on? No one!

Pilgrim, I can testify that He took me from where I was , and brought me where I am today. Along the way, I had support from people he designated to stand by me. Not people I had in mind, but people I may have felt were too busy to hold my hand. But they did; they did not show me the way, they also joined me on the journey to rise out of the ashes of my mistakes and folly, when I miserably failed to keep my eyes on him. I also learned that God can turn a situation to your advantage. We have read it in many scriptures: the story of Joseph sold into slavery and later became the point of survival; the story of Moses – when he was a baby, the story of Moses' survival is something we know; Moses' life in exile and leading his people from slavery, points to how God can turn situations to our advantage. The stories are many, but I do hope that whatever situation you are facing at this moment, keep your eyes on Him. Think about a time you felt greatly disappointed, and later realized that disappointment was a blessing in disguise. Think about a time when you felt bad that you were left out, marginalized, and later realised it was a blessing. And then, the time you really wanted to marry that person, and when it didn't work out, you felt your life was over. Then later, you realized it was the best thing that happened - that you didn't marry that person you thought was your world, and soul mate. Think again Pilgrim, even now, you may be disappointed, but allow him to hold your hand in this situation. I will also need to "call on him," ask Him to give me the strength, the wisdom to give it all to him.

Like you, I am a single parent. Like you,I have been given the opportunity to raise a Prince. I do see this task as a blessing because, each child should be treated like a Prince or Princess. Raising a child well should be based on honesty, love, being polite, and allowing them to be creative. Remember, children watch our actions, and they register situation as a way of life. Do you want your child to see you in constant stress, and unhappy; do you want your child to see you and your spouse in physical and verbal abusive situations, or your spouse constantly bully you? Remember that raising a child well means the environment where they live, grow and learn is pleasant, the environment is free of hostility and rudeness, because coarse behavior affects a child’s psychology. I embrace my situation, my dear friend, because the alternative is unthinkable; the alternative was not in my interest, and it was unhealthy for the overall growth and development of my Prince. A positive and healthy environment creates a positive effect on mind, and development of children. I say, I rather be alone in the dark, than to have a "hazard" as a companion.

Well Pilgrim, take heart, and know that you are not alone. I must attend to my Prince, but reflect on my quick note to you. Remember, you were chosen to be your child's parent; that means molding the mind of your child, providing a safe, loving environment to help your little Jewel realize their full potential. And as you embrace the task, you will begin to see sparks of light on your path; all you need to do is to open your minds; open your heart, and open your hands to recognize and embrace the support and blessings that will come from the hands of angels who are waiting to help you nurture your Precious Jewel.

My prayer this morning is to give it to him. Also, I will be writing a petition regarding this situation, which I will share with you later today.

always,
musue